Building Self-worth After Trauma


"I was determined and kept the worthy cause of peace, love and togetherness in our home.  
We are proud of our James who died as a peacemaker and bravely saved another precious son in his community. 

Our many conversations and scenarios which included James' sketches of his death to knife-crime in London helped us with forgiveness and ongoing healing.  This also paved the way for our trauma recovery model formulated through lived experience.  This 'JRHYS WFC' Model' is being shared in schools and the local community.  

I sincerely hope that the information and tools gathered and shared during my journey will make each waking moment a testimony of care, light and resilience for you and your family too." 

ColletH   
https://youtu.be/V_DNlOdhl_U



This workshop for all ages wasn't planned it was generated by Collet Hunter - Founder of James Ross Hunter Youth Support CIC when documenting her 'waking moments' after the loss of her son James
 11 years ago
(May 31, 2014-2025)
All of 'May' Knifecrime and Violence Awareness #1min4lives



 Developing Inner Self-Worth



1. **Practice self-compassion** - Treat yourself with the kindness you'd offer a good friend. When you make mistakes, acknowledge them without harsh self-judgment.


2. **Recognise your inherent value** - Your worth isn't determined by achievements, appearance, or others' opinions. You have intrinsic value simply by existing.


3. **Celebrate small wins** - Keep a "win journal" to document daily accomplishments, no matter how minor they seem.


4. **Challenge negative self-talk** - When you notice self-criticism, ask: "Would I speak this way to someone I love?" and "What would I say to a friend in this situation?"


Mindfulness Practices

1. **Daily meditation** - Start with 5 minutes focusing on your breath. When thoughts arise, acknowledge them without judgment and return to your breath.

2. **Body scan** - Systematically bring awareness to each part of your body from toes to head, noticing sensations without trying to change them.

3. **Mindful activities** - Choose one routine activity (eating, showering, walking) to do with complete presence each day.

4. **STOP practice** - When feeling overwhelmed: Stop, Take a breath, Observe your thoughts/feelings/body, then Proceed mindfully.

Setting Healthy Boundaries

1. **Identify your limits** - Reflect on situations that drain you or cause resentment. These often indicate boundary violations.

2. **Use clear, direct language** - "I need..." "I'm not comfortable with..." "I won't be able to..."

3. **Start small** - Begin setting boundaries in lower-stakes relationships before tackling more challenging ones.

4. **Practice saying no** - "No" is a complete sentence. You don't always need to explain or justify your boundaries.


Connecting with Inner Wisdom

1. **Regular journaling** - Ask yourself questions like for example "What do I need right now?" and write without censoring.

2. **Stillness practice** - Sit alone in silence for 10 minutes daily, simply noticing what arises without engaging with thoughts.

3. **Trust your body signals** - Notice physical sensations when making decisions. Tension often signals misalignment with your values.

4. **Create a wisdom council** - Imagine consulting with your wisest self, ancestors, or mentors when facing difficult decisions.

Framework for Lasting Change

1. **Values identification** - Clarify what truly matters to you, not what you think should matter.

2. **Small, consistent actions** - Implement tiny habits aligned with your values, focusing on consistency over perfection.

3. **Environmental design** - Structure your surroundings to support desired behaviours rather than relying solely on willpower.

4. **Community support** - Find or create a group or people with similar goals who can provide accountability and encouragement.

5. **Regular review** - Schedule monthly check-ins to assess what's working, and what isn't, and adjust accordingly. 
















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